The surface attraction your married friends feel (chemistry) is of the body and subconscious mind but it is still not love. Your friends have that surface attraction plus a happy relationship on a deep level which is what I think is true love. I believe you can have both but feel many people confuse chemistry with love. I also think that some people have that initial attraction and others create the attraction a few dates down the line.

Believe me, I felt the same way as you. I would rather be alone on a Saturday night than hang out with a guy who I was not attracted to. I think attraction is very important but not to be confused with love. But, many people I have worked with didn’t have the initial attraction in the beginning but now they are wildly attracted and in love with their mate. I think if you visualize yourself with your future mate on a daily basis and how you want to feel, you will be able to recognize what is true love attraction v. surface attraction.

True, you may not have met the right guy yet. From experience I know that what I feel with my mate is completely different than anything I ever felt before. He is totally opposite of what I dated my whole life. Lots of attraction and fun, exciting romance, but there seemed to be a solid ground to it.

I can’t tell you the difference because it is very subjective. Trust your powerful self and you’ll choose correctly.