Dreading the holiday season alone?

When I was single, I absolutely dreaded the holidays. Everywhere around me was a reminder that love is everywhere, so much joy and good tidings…except for me. I felt as though there was something really wrong with me that I was uncoupled. Sometimes being placed at the “young adult” table in my thirties because there was no room at the big table which was reserved for couples only further solidified my identity as an outcast of society.

Sure it was fun being with the teens, talking about what a dork everyone was and learning new, cool acronyms, but after a while it takes its toll. Don’t the couples realize how much hurt they impressed upon me? Being single for over two decades made me wonder if things were every going to change. What really made me sad was when the teens started to get married and have babies, while I still struggled with getting a second date.

Looking back, I wish I could tell that lonely girl that things are going to work out. It may have taken a little longer for me to realize how wonderful I was and be open to accept love into my life, but it happened. A week before Thanksgiving, just as I was dreading another crappy holiday, I finally met him. All those years of waiting, wasted on my private pity extravaganza.

The funny thing is that now I am in a relationship not much has changed.  The seas didn’t part nor did angels descend upon me with their hymns of praise. I am still the same person but experience a slightly different lifestyle as a couple. I waited my whole life for this amazing moment, but found meeting him was not the answer to solve all of my worldly problems. I am still me with bills to pay and work to do.

Don’t put your life on hold as if everything will miraculously change when you become a coupled person. There is no guarantee or warning signs that he is going to come into your life. You’ll never feel as if your dream person is close, he will just show up. Expect the best to happen to you and that you get everything you desire. You are in control of your thoughts around your single status, so make them pleasant and your season will be filled with joy, with or without “him.” Don’t wish away the holidays, they could be your last as a single person!