Confidence in Dating
January 16, 2008 by admin
Filed under Dating Advice
After a year or two of fun and a few little heartaches, I finally decided that I wanted to be in a relationship. It was as if someone turned off my man magnet and I became dateless and desperate. Why does it always seem to come easily when you don’t want it and hard to find when you do?
This story is a great example of the law of attraction. When we desire something we often focus on what we don’t want – I don’t want to be single, I don’t want to be alone, I can’t find anyone to love – which only perpetuates the situation. If you are finding yourself in a dating funk, pay attention to your thinking and feelings to get them in alignment with your desires. Daily visualization and holding the feeling as if the right one is already in your life can expedite the manifestation of true love for you.
This sounds so much like me, being in a bad relationship, getting out of it, dating excessively and without purpose and then wanting to settle down. I can totally relate.
I think however, the “dating magnet off” is really not the reason for datelessness. I think when you look deeper in the kind of dating you do when you are carefully considering a potential mate vs. fun one-time dinner date, the more selective you are, the fewer dates you will have by choice. Makes sense? Now that you are in search of a relationship, the quality conquers quantity. Agree?
Yes, I agree the fewer selections you have when you are being more picky and know what you want. The attraction magnet goes off however if you are desperate for a relationship, feeling lonely and sad without a man. If you find you are still dating unavailable men, that is because your subconscious is not in alignment with your desire for a real relationship.
Thanks for the comment!