Secret to Attract Love Without Trying

If you have been single for a while and frustrated with the lack of prospects, you probably feel a little anxious about the upcoming holidays. Dreading going through another season alone, you force yourself more than ever to get out there and meet someone immediately. The urgency can move you out of your comfort zone but can also increase the pressure on yourself and those you meet to make love happen. The problem I see in most women is they try too hard to make love appear on command. By now, you may have read about the law of attraction and have been visualizing your ideal man. Just being aware that you are in control of your life through the power of thought can be a daunting responsibility. Often times, this idea makes women feel as though they are “doing it all wrong” when their dream guy doesn’t manifest out of thin air. They feel worse about themselves which only leads to more pressure on the single life situation. Through my work with thousands of people, some singles have deep blocks to love that need to be addressed before they can have a fulfilling, healthy relationship. However, there are so many I work with who have all the knowledge, wisdom and self-awareness except for one small detail…they simply just try too hard and get frustrated too easily. Feeling pressure and forcing it to happen can lead to many disappointments. One, when they meet someone they like, they lose their cool and end up pushing the man away. Two, they settle for less than they deserve just to have someone. Three, they may even go back to an old relationship or continue to hang on to one that is not working to avoid being alone. Nothing good can come out of desperation. When you feel anxious for love, you lose a bargaining chip. Your subconscious mind sends a signal to every man you meet that you are an easy target. You lose your power. The man becomes the prize you must attain and, sadly, some men abuse that power. They will take you for granted, not call or call at the last Read more

Singles Teleseminar Replay- Are you ready for love?

Learn how you could be sabotaging your efforts to meet the love of your life. If the law of attraction isn’t working for you, feel like the hypnosis isn’t “sinking in” or keep attracting the wrong men, listen to the teleseminar by Love Hypnotist Debra Berndt. Debra explains the common blocks to attracting your mate and how to prepare for true love.

 

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Love Hypnotist Show – Online Dating Expert Julie Spira

Debra Berndt, the Love Hypnotist, interviews special guest: Cyber Dating Expert – Julie Spira – Author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online is a romantic tell-all memoir spanning over 250 online dates in almost 15 years. The book is filled with heartfelt, witty, and hilarious stories. Julie Spira, a pioneer in the Internet industry, became the first on her block to post an online dating profile. You’ll Read more

 

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Dating Tip: How do you act when you like someone?

One of the most popular questions I get from my blog is “what is the right way to act when I like someone?” Fearful of making the wrong move and blowing the connection, my single clients often get confused as to the “rules” of dating. Just the simple idea that Read more

Why it is hard to believe that love is possible

The world is filled with doubt. Many look at their lives as if nothing is going to change. When I was single, I felt as if love would never happen. I looked upon my happily coupled friends in awe wondering how they got to be so lucky while I silently suffered in my loneliness. I knew about the law of attraction and that I had to start believing love was possible for me to attract the one, but how? The reason it is so hard for singles who have been lonely for a long period of time to muster up the feeling of faith is because of the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is part of our ego that clings to the limited world, it only can see the past. This deep mind operates on autopilot, warning you of danger and reacting to familiar experiences and resisting what is unknown. For the deep, subconscious mind, only the past exists in the present, there is no future, no hope. This is why you repeat patterns and never seem to break the poor dating habits that continue to perpetuate your single status. You don’t have faith that love is possible. In order to generate faith, a new energy must be called in from the superconscious or divine mind. This is the spiritual, light part of you that believes in the unseen, that has faith in a higher power. This creative part of your mind is unlimited, it can pave a path in your mind to a new future. Many people see this part of them as their “big Self” that is connected to all that is, can move beyond time and space and create matter from nothing. Instead of trying to convince the subconscious ego of the possibility of love, acknowledge that it will never be able to see it unless you invite your divine self in to bring in the light. This process is done with the power of the hypnotic state. The trance experience suspends the doubting mind and brings in the light of the superconscious to create new futures and realities. By simply visualizing yourself in love and being next to the man of your dreams, you start to add a new quality of thinking to the subconscious – you are building a new memory as if love has already happened for you. Then it will be easy for you to generate the feelings of hope. Just like you have faith that you can stand up and walk because you have done it so many times in the past, your subconscious mind will automatically start believing in the magic of true love coming into your life. Your will or conscious mind can direct the subconscious in any way you like. Unfortunately, most let the subconscious run on autopilot and complain that nothing ever changes. You have the power to take command of your dating destiny by simply creating a new future inside your own mind. Wayne Dyer says, “When you believe it, you will see it.” That pretty much sums up how your life is created. Faith is the most important tool in your personal development tool box. Find faith and everything falls into place.

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